Friday, July 21, 2017

http://www.modlifecollection.com/seating.html


...is going back into production and back to High Point!

Stay tuned for many exciting details to come!


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Thursday, July 20, 2017

I'm only going to cherish...

 

As I grow through the pain, and in the face of the unbelievable anger, cruel lies, and projection towards me, only our souls both know truly what was and what is real. I wish only healing and happiness in return. For now, I walk on sadness but in true soul peace to a healthier and happier place. 

I choose to forgive and stay grateful for having been able to love so true, and for finally having the courage to walk away. With each tear, I'm healing. 

I will only forever cherish all the beautiful that was, TNF. 

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Monday, June 26, 2017

"Reactive Abuse"


A post by Yasi. Source: https://themindsjournal.com/reactive-abuse/

A very common aspect of psychological abuse and manipulation is for the abuser to claim that the victim is being abusive towards them. I’ve written about the abusers “victim complex”, and “gaslighting” in this manner before. But right now I want to address the specific scenario in which the victim snaps at the abuser. They endure and endure, they have been told that there is nothing to react to, they have been told they overreact to everything, so they are afraid to mention their hurt, and confusion, and cannot acknowledge they are being abused. They endure so much for so long, they snap. They scream at the abuser. Insult them. Maybe even throw in a low-blow or unfair insult. They may even physically attack, although this is very very uncommon in victims of abuse. 

The abuser jumps on this reactionary outburst. They claim it is “proof” that the victim is unstable. They claim it is “proof” that the victim is the abuser after all. They can hold it up, and hold it against the victim for as long as they can, and as hard as they can. They are not interested in talking things out. 

They are not interested in listening to why this outburst has happened. They have their “proof”, and that’s all they ever needed from the victim. They get to say things like, “YOU’RE the one who frightened ME”, and “you are an emotional time bomb” and I have to walk on eggshells around you, and have the victim believe it. While the abuser is the actual time-bomb, and the victim is frightened and walking on egg shells, but dare not admit it or bring attention to it, or has been so deeply abused they don’t even see it themselves. The abuser turns the roles, and paints themselves as the victim. This leads the victim to believe they are in fact the abusive one in the relationship. They now believe they are violent and emotionally unstable, and may start describing themselves as such and seeking help for these problems.


If they break away from the abuser, they stand no chance at all against the Smear Campaign the abuser then launches. Partially because they believe they-were-wrong. This does not mean that the reaction was okay. It is never okay to treat another person with violence. However, it is understandable. And it is very important to differentiate this kind of reaction with the kind of ongoing abuse that causes it. I don’t think it’s fair to call Reactive Abuse “abuse”, because the word implies a severe violence that causes detriment to the mental and physical well-being of the victim. “Reactive Abuse” almost never actually harms the true abuser it was aimed at – in fact it is often exactly what they wanted, and only bolsters their sense of self-righteousness and fuels their power over the victim.

A good way to tell a victim who reacted to abuse, and a psychologically abusive person creating a smear campaign against a victim is their attitudes toward their own actions. Victims will almost always be able to admit their own faults. They will know they reacted badly and did wrong. This quality is actually what the abuser uses against them in the first place to make them believe they are the ones in the wrong. Part of healing from abuse is learning to point out which of the abusers’ behaviors are, in fact abuse, while still acknowledging what you handled badly. (And everyone reacts badly to things when under the extreme pressure of abuse!). 

Abusers will almost never admit they have ever done anything wrong at all. Their victims will be blamed for everything. They will hold every tiny thing against the victim, even things they could not possibly control, or they have never tried to talk to them about. They use social bigotries against the victim, and in their own defense. (Especially mental illness is used in this way – they believe their own illness excuses them from every wrongdoing, and their victims’ illness is proof they are in the wrong). 

The most dangerous, most intelligent psychologically abusive people will even try to fake being able to admit their own mistakes. But they almost always get tripped up in the details, by claiming “oh I handled that badly -” but following it up with “-but only because of (something that is the victims fault after all)”.

Via ReportFella


I have experienced so much of this in my own life from my father and a sister, and even again in a recent relationship. It took me so many years to finally realize the core truth of it all. The pain and the emotionally healthy years lost were just so profound. But, I'm still grateful for the gifts and finally awakening to it all. It was so hard to imagine separating myself from my blood. My own father and sister! And of course so many people ask you, "won't you regret it when they're gone?" The answer is Hell No! 

I'm so much more at peace with no contact. I wish them well. I'll always hope they go to their core and someday apologize. And I'll be there for them. But I'm finally at total peace not needing it for me. And it brings me such joy to be the one to break the chain of abuse in my own family. My children will never know that kind of pain from their own immediate family. This father will always fight to keep this family close and supportive of each other. It's Daddy's law!

Wishing everyone health, love, and happiness.


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Monday, May 15, 2017

In the sea of the same...

  

Why is the base blue on this sofa? We say it's because everyone else puts a brown base on theirs, and our passion begins when the old rules get broken!

As the lead designer at Mod Life collection, I often get asked, why don't we just do our version of what sells the most out there. My answer is always the same. That's why furniture is not important enough! There is a sea of the same brown couches out there! We're about putting the passion back into relaxing and living at home.


Color changes everything! It stimulates us. It rejuvenates us, and elevates our moods. It's real simple. We believe that furniture should be and can be fun. And we're designing some 
of the coolest places to sit on the planet! Check out what we're up to at modlifecollection.com  

http://www.modlifecollection.com 


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Tuesday, March 29, 2016

Mod Life and Mod Mom Take HB2 Stand—Pull Out of High Point Market


FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

Mod Life and Mod Mom Take HB2 Stand—Pull Out of High Point Market
Mod Brands—Mod Life Collection and Mod Mom Furniture—Cancel Plans to Exhibit in April

PHILADELPHIA, March 29, 2016 – Mod Life Collection, co-founded by 30-year industry veteran, Robert Petril, and Kiersten Parsons, ABC’s Shark Tank survivor and founder of sister company, Mod Mom Furniture, made the decision to withdraw from exhibiting at the upcoming High Point Market trade show in April.
“Like so many of our friends and colleagues in the industry, we were shocked and saddened to learn of the passing of HB2,” said Petril, CEO and co-founder of Mod Life Collection. “Both Kiersten and I are people who greatly value diversity and inclusion and feel strongly, given the position we are in, we need to take a stand.”

Mod Life Collection has exhibited at High Point Market since April 2015 and prior to HB2, planned to showcase new designs as well as launch Mod Mom branded sofas next month at the spring exhibition. The Mod Mom Furniture upholstery launch will now debut after Market.
“As entrepreneurs who have struggled to support our families in the past, we thought long and hard about the ramifications of standing up for equality in this way—not just for our own brands, but for the many families in North Carolina who depend on Market traffic to feed their families,” Parsons said. “We ultimately decided that we cannot support discrimination. It is our hope that our industry, which greatly impacts North Carolina’s economy, will join together in various ways to support diversity, inclusion and human compassion.”

Mod Life Collection and Mod Mom Furniture are solely manufactured in the U.S. Production for both modern furniture brands is bi-coastal, with factories in North Carolina, Pennsylvania, Ohio and California. “From the time I was 19-years-old working in a North Carolina upholstery factory, until now, I have seen progress on many fronts,” added Petril. “But HB2 is a serious step in the wrong direction not only for the state and the furniture industry, but for every single one of us. I’m personally hoping North Carolina will get on the right side of history. Until then, we at Mod Life and Mod Mom, will continue to monitor the situation and will evaluate our plans for future exhibitions in High Point.”

About Mod Life Collection
Mod Life Collection was founded by industry veteran, Robert Petril, and self-made furniture designer, Kiersten Hathcock, on a search for furniture that people would truly love. After three decades of success in furniture manufacturing, retailing and sales, Petril stripped off his tie and followed his passion for creating things. Shortly after he joined forces with Hathcock, founder of internationally known juvenile furniture line, Mod Mom Furniture. As CEO of Mod Life Collection, Petril spearheads bringing to life his vision that incorporates multiple design perspectives to create furnishings that are fun, exciting and desirable. For more information visit www.modlifecollection.com, or connect through Facebook, Twitter and Pinterest
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Tuesday, October 6, 2015

Mod Girl Talk...



See what they're talking about this coming High Point Furniture Market...


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Tuesday, April 7, 2015

A little bit about the journey...



High Point, NC 2014
When I was a kid I dreamed about growing up and flying rockets, or at least some job where I would get to push all kinds of cool buttons. Well, you know what happens - the real world and destiny reveal themselves. At least I get to push all kinds of buttons on my smart phone now!
  
My father was a sales rep in the furniture business. As a child of the industry who was writing messages on the chalkboard in the kitchen (right before answering machines) for my father from retail salespeople, my destiny was set very early.

My professional path started in the factories. I worked in every department from the lumberyard to the loading dock. Then I went onto floor sales in a furniture store. From there, I eventually became a sub-rep, a lead-rep, and finally a top ranked VP for the largest leather furniture manufacturer in the world.

 I had found financial success and a really cool title. Traveled the world and learned more about the industry than I could ever imagine. There were two problems I discovered within all that I was learning: 1) People hate buying furniture; 2) None of my work had much to do at all with my real passion in life.

Altamura, Italy 2003
People in just about every financial bracket clamor for the latest new technology, automobile, or new gear, but not furniture! Sorry but the truth is, we as an industry do a terrible job of exciting people. It’s been my passion for many years now to do my little part to change that. Now I actually get to do that!

Over 10 years ago when I ripped off my tie, and left the world of sales to follow my true passion in creating things, the journey to the Mod Life Collection began. Now, the mission is very simple, to break every paradigm that makes sense to break. To follow a new vision of fun and exciting new products that people will clamor for. We live on our couches. And yes, we do call them couches!

So now the long wondrous journey has brought me to the beginning of a whole new one. Mod Life Collection launches in less than two weeks. I can't believe it's finally here! Let's Rock!

http://www.modlifecollection.com/events.html



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Saturday, January 31, 2015

No Girls Allowed! (Nor anyone else for that matter!)


Whenever I hear it said that the “Boy’s Club” still rules and “women need not apply,” I feel compelled to share my experiences in this industry. It’s true, if you walk into most showrooms in High Point during the beginning of the Furniture Market, you will find a huge group of older men in their new market ties getting ready for the sales meetings. Soon the company leaders (mostly all men) will get up and address the sales force.  He will tell them why these products will sell and give them the marching orders for the upcoming season. Some of those leaders will even talk about how more women are needed in influential positions in our industry. I’ve heard the same empty rhetoric for 30 years now! The problem is, some say it because they believe it, and some because they think it’s the right thing to say and it makes them look more progressive. However, they’re still saying this to a huge group of aging men.  Some in really great ties, too. But the truth is there’s no plot against women or anyone else. The only plot is to desperately keep their jobs.
To begin to go to the core of the problem we have to back up and understand how this industry was built. I, myself, am a perfect example of how the industry has evolved. I’m a pure nepotistic traveler into the wide world of furniture. My father is a retired 50 year veteran of the industry, and he brought me in through the worm hole called “who you know.”  Here’s the dirty little secret.  In the good ole days, you didn’t have to possess the truly applicable talent nor education to make a lot of money in the furniture business. You needed to have a father in it! Then you needed to learn to talk the talk and take the right people to lunch without saying something stupid. And to this day, the same crop of individuals cultivated over the decades is still in many of the same positions. The only difference now is they are holding on for dear life! So few are there because of their training or deep connection to what really applies to today’s home or the real consumers’ design sensibilities.


Women of the industry please listen carefully. You are the primary consumers of our products. These jobs are there for your taking! The “Boys Club” is weak. Actually, it doesn’t really even exist at all. A club implies organization and a team working together for a cause. Trust me, most of their wives still pick their ties! They can’t compete with you head to head. You got this! The biggest obstacle today is the fear, insecurity, and the misunderstandings stemming from the years of the smoke and mirror show perfection.
The reality is, the industry is ripe for takeover on every level. And, it has to be on every single level.  If we really look around, there are some amazing bright spots and real progress is happening. Take a look at Meredith Younger at Younger Furniture. She’s leading a great upholstery company and she’s kicking ass and taking names! Watch Julia Rosien leading the charge at Restonic.  Take a look at “Mod Mom” Kiersten Parsons, founder of Mod Mom Furniture. She went into her garage and taught herself carpentry (another traditional “man job”) and starting building furniture by hand. She’s now blazing a path for all women from the sawdust on her garage floor, to an internationally known brand that connects deeply and directly with how our consumers live.

Along with the obstacles to women (and just as lethal to our industry) is the complete disregard of real recruitment efforts. Only through interior design does this exist at all. Over the years I’ve been in hiring positions for meaningful jobs. Early at one point, I worked for a very well known furniture company and I advertised a very high paying sales position. I was flooded with resumes from those same men in ties and their sons from the same showrooms I mentioned earlier. Not one resume was from a woman. Not one from someone in retail or a design firm or anywhere else. In hindsight, I also did a terrible job of targeting my recruitment efforts towards a new and innovative direction. At the time I was young, scared, and inexperienced. I hired from the safe stack of resumes in front of me. And the list go on!
 
Wait it gets even worse! To even begin changing recruitment efforts we have to address another huge core problem. It’s the investment in Research and Design. When money goes into R&D, students and young talented women and men have something with which (and for) to work. But that’s a whole other critical subject. Bottom line is, the world has changed. We need a real gender, age, cultural, and investment balance. We need new talent and new blood in our industry and we better hurry! We’ve been behind for decades and the world is only moving faster and faster. So, women, men, gays, straights, and green Martians, let’s go to the core and make things happen one bite at a time. Because if we don’t our kids will soon be sitting on their new Apple and Samsung sofas!


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