Wednesday, September 20, 2017

The walk forward...


What a challenging year this has been so far. I'm so grateful I took my real path back into my own hands starting in the beginning of this year. It's been a powerful mix of liberation, growth, pain, healing, determination, and now a happy refocus on what's truly important. A year containing a complete reset of my life's journey. Back to a joyful close proximity to my children. I'm so excited to walk each step through the rest of this year. There's so much to look forward to. I recently got another production design gig on a very powerful short film. We finished filming almost two weeks ago, and it should release as early as this Fall/Winter.





I also found my first tiny acting role on a new Sonny Vellozzi film called "Without You" coming in 2018. That was so fun! And it gave me my first IMDb credit for acting. Until this, all my work has been behind the cameras. I got to play a character named "Pete", a mafia wiseguy playing dominoes outside of a social club. Much to my delight, my character gets into an argument with another player, and my ad lib lines were full of curse words!

 
Now, it looks like there is a lot more production work on the horizon. I feel so grateful I get to follow one of my true passions in life. But, next month there's something even more exciting! I'm relaunching my seating designs at the High Point Furniture Market. The "never give up no matter what" business plan will finally begin to pay off this October, and I could not be more excited! This particular journey to my own collection started back in 2008 in Shanghai.
What a long road it's been. The miles nor trials could never break my passion!


http://robertpetril.blogspot.com/p/furniture.html

My collection has been launched in High Point before. The initial launch was a very successful one for orders and placements. Over 14 retailers around the country ordered the collection for their stores. However, my manufacturing partner at that time took 33 weeks to process the first order. It was euphoria turned nightmare. Well, this High Point Market is very different. I have partnered with a very solid and long established manufacturer. Founded in 1959, Elite Leather Company is a trusted brand in the industry, and among consumers as well. Starting this Fall season my designs will come to life again, and actually be able to populate some very cool spaces out there.



The journey has been long and challenging to say the least. This year I learned about letting go. Letting go of what just wasn't ever real. I'm living the confirmation that when we are truthful, (first and fully with ourselves) walking life's journey authentically becomes very natural, joyful, and peaceful. True soul peace. No blame. No validation necessary. I'm looking forward to these next few months and closing out this year of valuable growth. And, I'm wishing everyone truth and happiness along your walk.

Hey! before I go, if you're attending this coming High Point Furniture Market. Click here to let me know, and keep up to date on all the mod information. It's going to be a very fun Market! I hope to see you there!


October 14 - 18



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Friday, July 21, 2017

Mod Life Collection Returns!

http://www.modlifecollection.com/seating.html


Mod Life Productions, by Robert Petril

We're going back into production and back to High Point Market

Stay tuned for many exciting details to come!


 See us at High Point Market, October 14-18

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Monday, June 26, 2017

Under Attack!


A post by Yasi. Source: https://themindsjournal.com/reactive-abuse/

A very common aspect of psychological abuse and manipulation is for the abuser to claim that the victim is being abusive towards them. I’ve written about the abusers “victim complex”, and “gaslighting” in this manner before. But right now I want to address the specific scenario in which the victim snaps at the abuser. They endure and endure, they have been told that there is nothing to react to, they have been told they overreact to everything, so they are afraid to mention their hurt, and confusion, and cannot acknowledge they are being abused. They endure so much for so long, they snap. They scream at the abuser. Insult them. Maybe even throw in a low-blow or unfair insult. They may even physically attack, although this is very very uncommon in victims of abuse. 

The abuser jumps on this reactionary outburst. They claim it is “proof” that the victim is unstable. They claim it is “proof” that the victim is the abuser after all. They can hold it up, and hold it against the victim for as long as they can, and as hard as they can. They are not interested in talking things out. 

They are not interested in listening to why this outburst has happened. They have their “proof”, and that’s all they ever needed from the victim. They get to say things like, “YOU’RE the one who frightened ME”, and “you are an emotional time bomb” and I have to walk on eggshells around you, and have the victim believe it. While the abuser is the actual time-bomb, and the victim is frightened and walking on egg shells, but dare not admit it or bring attention to it, or has been so deeply abused they don’t even see it themselves. The abuser turns the roles, and paints themselves as the victim. This leads the victim to believe they are in fact the abusive one in the relationship. They now believe they are violent and emotionally unstable, and may start describing themselves as such and seeking help for these problems.


If they break away from the abuser, they stand no chance at all against the Smear Campaign the abuser then launches. Partially because they believe they-were-wrong. This does not mean that the reaction was okay. It is never okay to treat another person with violence. However, it is understandable. And it is very important to differentiate this kind of reaction with the kind of ongoing abuse that causes it. I don’t think it’s fair to call Reactive Abuse “abuse”, because the word implies a severe violence that causes detriment to the mental and physical well-being of the victim. “Reactive Abuse” almost never actually harms the true abuser it was aimed at – in fact it is often exactly what they wanted, and only bolsters their sense of self-righteousness and fuels their power over the victim.

A good way to tell a victim who reacted to abuse, and a psychologically abusive person creating a smear campaign against a victim is their attitudes toward their own actions. Victims will almost always be able to admit their own faults. They will know they reacted badly and did wrong. This quality is actually what the abuser uses against them in the first place to make them believe they are the ones in the wrong. Part of healing from abuse is learning to point out which of the abusers’ behaviors are, in fact abuse, while still acknowledging what you handled badly. (And everyone reacts badly to things when under the extreme pressure of abuse!). 

Abusers will almost never admit they have ever done anything wrong at all. Their victims will be blamed for everything. They will hold every tiny thing against the victim, even things they could not possibly control, or they have never tried to talk to them about. They use social bigotries against the victim, and in their own defense. (Especially mental illness is used in this way – they believe their own illness excuses them from every wrongdoing, and their victims’ illness is proof they are in the wrong). 

The most dangerous, most intelligent psychologically abusive people will even try to fake being able to admit their own mistakes. But they almost always get tripped up in the details, by claiming “oh I handled that badly -” but following it up with “-but only because of (something that is the victims fault after all)”.

Via ReportFella


I've experienced so much of this in my life from my own father and two sisters, and even again in a recent relationship with a narcissist and someone who has a borderline personality disorder, as well as acute victim syndrome.  While very painful at first, in the end that relationship was easy to walk away from with great peace and clarity. In the case of my family, It took me too many years to finally realize the core truth of it all. The pain and the emotionally healthy years lost were many. But, I'm still grateful for the gifts of finally awakening to it all. It was so hard to imagine separating myself from my blood. My own father and sisters! And of course so many people ask you, "won't you regret it when they're gone?" The answer is Hell No! 

I'm so much more at peace with no contact. I wish them well. I'll always hope they go to their core and someday apologize. And I'll be there for them. But I'm finally at total peace not needing it for my happiness. And, it brings me such joy to be the one to break the chain of abuse in my own family. My children will never know that kind of pain from their own immediate family. This father will always fight to keep this family close and supportive of each other. It's Daddy's law!

Wishing everyone health, love, and happiness.


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Monday, May 15, 2017

In the sea of the same...

  

Why is the base blue on this sofa? We say it's because everyone else puts a brown base on theirs, and our passion begins when the old rules get broken!

As the founder of Mod Life Productions, I often get asked, why don't we just do our version of what sells the most out there. My answer is always the same. That's why furniture is not important enough! There is a sea of the same brown couches out there! We're about putting the passion back into relaxing and living at home.


Color changes everything! It stimulates us. It rejuvenates us, and elevates our moods. It's real simple. We believe that furniture should be and can be fun. We're designing some of the coolest places to sit on the planet!

http://www.modlifecollection.com 


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